(Lyrics for this song can be found here.)
It’s been a long time since I’ve made a personal update here. In a nutshell, I’m fairly self-contained and don’t tend to look outwards much for attention or validation. It’s not that I hate people, it’s just that as an introvert I’m attuned to my senses and lean toward solitude in a way that has me putting time into things I can do without relying so much on others. It’s been my style since childhood and as long as I can remember. I love studying, reading, creating things, and experiencing what wonders the world has to offer. I love the time I spend with my family, my friends, my readers, and all those who are close to my heart.
Conversely, if there’s one thing I’ve learned over the past year, it’s boundaries. One thing that really bothers me is anyone who consistently fails to make a serious effort to learn from the world around them and solve their own problems. What bothers me even more is anyone that adds an extra veneer of complication and stupidity on op of this by starting drama, seeking a fight, seeding suspicion, spreading gossip, or basically acting like an asshole. That, dear readers, is why I’m making this post.
When I first made the decision to relocate to Victoria, one of the fringe benefits was that it cut a handful of toxic people out of my life, a trio that had taken to harassing friends and coworkers of mine after I closed the book on them for their disgusting behaviour. I won’t waste my readers’ time with the details; for one, it’s already been dealt with, but most importantly, bullies don’t deserve free publicity.
What caught me off guard — more recently, mind you — was finding out the truth about a friend of these individuals in my new city who’d been trying to befriend me, asking offensive questions and doing things you just don’t do to a person you care about. Given time, I figured out what was going on, and it wasn’t particularly difficult to deal with the situation and simply cut this individual out, but at the end of the day I wonder why some people can’t seem to avoid starting chaos or negativity everywhere they go.
This brings me to the point of this post: if you act like an idiot, I’m not going to put up with it. Nor do you get to be a permanent fixture in my life. I wear shoes higher than your standards, and sooner or later you’ll feel one of them kicking you to the curb because you couldn’t be bothered to act considerate in the first place.
Over the past couple of years, I’ve accomplished a fair bit: changed employers, met new people, made friends, held on to friends, gotten back into the dating scene, rebuilt my website, and begun to rekindle my interests. Most importantly, I’ve taken a stringent second look at who I want to include on my journey. Life’s too short to ride the Drama Llama straight into the ground, and I’ll be damned if I’m going to let anyone’s bullshit ruin my day.
When the dust has settled, you’ll see me standing tall with the family, friends, acquaintances, connections, and lessons that reinforce the positive in my life. You’ll see me putting my energy into things that are productive.
You won’t see me wasting time on people that aren’t sincere, or who don’t want to improve their station in life. Prepare to be excised.